Oprah Says…

A friend PM’d me this from “What Oprah Winfrey Had To Say About Men.” I was nodding almost all throughout. I guess she’s not one of the world’s most influential people for nothing, eh? ūüôā

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If a¬†man wants you, nothing can¬†keep him away. If he doesn’t¬†want you, nothing can make¬†him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself¬†for a relationship that’s not¬†meant to be. Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man¬†before you find what makes¬†you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the¬†man was not treating you as¬†you deserve then heck no,¬†you can’t “be friends”. A¬†friend¬†wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.

If you feel like he¬†is stringing you along, then he¬†probably is. Don’t stay because¬†you think “it will get¬†better.” You’ll be mad at¬†yourself a year later for staying when things are no¬†better. The only person you¬†can¬†control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a¬†bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn’t¬†marry them when he got¬†them pregnant, why would¬†he¬†treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.Maintain boundaries in
how¬†a guy treats you. If¬†something¬†bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.¬†He will use it against you¬†later.You cannot change a¬†man’s behavior. Change¬†comes from within.

Don’t¬†EVER make him feel he is more¬†important than you are…Even if¬†he has more education or in¬†a better job.Do not make him¬†into a quasi-god. He is a man,
nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow¬†someone else’s man. If he¬†cheated with you, he’ll cheat
on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT
dogs.You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two-way street.

You need time to¬†heal between relationships.. .There is nothing cute about¬†baggage…Deal with your¬†issues before pursuing a new¬†relationship.

You should never¬†look for someone to COMPLETE¬†you…A relationship consists of¬†two WHOLE individuals…Look for someone¬†complimentary.. .not¬†supplementary.

Dating is¬†fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him¬†miss you sometimes…whe n a¬†man always know where¬†you¬†are, and you’re always readily¬†available to him – he takes it for granted.

Never move into¬†his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully¬†commit to a man who doesn’t¬†give you everything that you¬†need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what¬†makes a lot of women stay in¬†relationships that are abusive¬†or hurtful: Dr. Phil says: You¬†should know that. You’re the best thing that could ever¬†happen to anyone and if a¬†man mistreats you, he’ll miss¬†out on¬†a good thing.

If he was¬†attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not¬†the only one.They’re all¬†watching you, so you have a¬†lot of choices.Make the right ¬†one.

Ladies take care of your¬†own hearts…. Share this with other women and men (just¬†so¬†they know).¬†You’ll make¬†someone smile, another¬†rethink her choices, and¬†another woman prepare.