My first post in my new blogging home, yey! Just decided a fresh start might be a good change, although I did take most of my previous posts here too. Just like moving to a new house, we tend to take our oldest, most precious possessions with us, never mind if they might not match the new surroundings. Somehow, the sight of old trinkets, photos or whatever thing it might be, is a great reminder of where we came from, how far we’ve come and how big (or little?) we’ve changed. They made us who we are now.
I still named my blog For Okray Lovers. I have actually been writing online since around 200o through our high school batch’s e-groups, then later through Multiply. I remember one of my earlier posts got published in the online edition of Youngblood (I was shooting for the print version so I can frame it; now I can’t find a link to the e-version). I wrote about the challenges of being a teenage mom and coping with the drastic change in lifestyle and priorities.
My Multiply and Facebook accounts got compromised several times in 2008 until I was finally left at peace sometime in 2009. Guess getting out of a really bad relationship does wonders not only to my heart and mind but also to my social networking life! I’m not very techie and don’t know how to set up my own site (until now) so I just rely on free hosting sites like these and some helpful friends (Much love, Ranil!).
Bakit nga ba “For Okray Lovers?”
Okra is a vegetable, a vegetable I used to hate until my daughter came along and it would become the only vegetable she would eat in sinigang for a long time. But that’s not really the reason.
Okray is a very common gay term (we used this a lot during my college days, when most of my friends were gays and fag hags) meaning to belittle or criticize. It may also mean: tsugihin, ligwakin, tigbakin. Negative connotation and when I did start blogging then, a lot of my posts were full of ranting, whining, green-eyed-monster gabbing, sarcasm and poking fun at others. When I read some of my older posts, I would just shake my head and laugh at my pettiness and nega-star attitude.
I didn’t retain blog title because I want to continue with that attitude. I’m not saying I’ve turned holier-than-thou and don’t slip up every now and then; I do and I’m sorry for that. But I realized that I’ve been such a bitch before (yeah there I said it) that much of my negativity was because I was insecure, afraid or just plain close-minded.
A lot of the stuff I used to make fun of I actually like or enjoy now, like staying home instead of ending an all-night-partying throwing up in some bar, praying, eating out or mag-gala ng mag-isa or reading the Bible. Many things I never thought I’d do, I did. The bad things I regret ended up teaching me a whole lot of life lessons; those that turned out to be good, I tuck in my little treasure box of great memories.
I’m not at my best yet. God is not yet finished with me. But I am amazed at how He has put a lot of work and effort and love on me so far, and I’m excited what more He can do.
Yesterday, He has answered a long-whispered prayer, and gave me a reason to stay and fight. He gave me new purpose at work and rekindled that fire again. He made my managers and peers trust me and what a balm that is to my bruised confidence.
Funny thing is, I actually have a different verse for my devo yesterday morning. But for some reason, when I opened my bible, I was drawn to this verse:
“Rest in the LORD and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret…” ~Psalm 37:7