Grey Area

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I haven’t watched any episode of Grey’s Anatomy’s new season (the ninth?). I think the last I watched was when their plane crashed and little Grey (Lexi) died. I liked her so them killing her character off was a bummer. Now I just have Yang. And yeah, okay,  Avery’s piercing eyes.

Anyway, I just thought of that because I was actually starting on an entirely different post when I suddenly remembered one of my favorite lines from the hundreds of really good Grey’s quotes.

I’m not sure if it’s in the second or third season, but it was when Meredith and Derek broke up because Addison, Derek’s wife -whom Mer didn’t have any idea existed, not knowing her hunky attending surgeon is already married – suddenly appeared in Seattle Grace at the end of the previous season.

So, Mer was feeling all hurt and messed up because one, Derek was not honest about his real status, and two, Mer looked like a dirty little homewrecker, never mind that Derek actually left Addie in NYC because she cheated on him with his best friend (yes, that McSteamy but he will appear later in the season pa).

Mer naturally went into a rebound-dating spree and of course, Derek found out about it and confronted her.

While I may not agree with Mer’s methods (a long time ago, I admit I resorted to that too – with predictably disastrous and painful results), her words to Derek stuck to me ever since.

“No,” she told him after Derek seemed to be on the verge of calling her the W-word. “You don’t get to judge me on how I chose to fix something that you broke.”

Ooh. Relate much?

Broken Hearts Need a Break Too

Okay, since it’s February and a friend’s situation came to mind during my quiet time, I had to write this. I can’t promise this would be my last love-themes post but I’ll try, okay? 🙂
 
 
 
How do we heal a broken heart? For most of us girls, it involves endless ranting and rehashing to friends and anyone who would listen, copious amount of tears, play lists of the most heart-wrenching love songs on repeat-mode, buckets of liquor, the occasional threat of bodily harm to the guy involved (and any third party, if applicable), and a defiant hunt for the next distraction, i.e., the rebound.
Sad to say, most of us still drop into the habit of doing most of the stuff above. Sure we get well-meaning advice about moving on and focusing on the good things, but in our most vulnerable, selfish moments, it’s easier to wallow in self-pity. Mas masarap magpaka-kawawa, diba, especially this time of the year, when all the Valentine brouhaha is assaulting our senses.
We’ve heard the saying, “Don’t let your emotions take over.” I think that’s sound advice. But since the heart is mostly an emotional organ, I think it’s also fair to give it ample time to grieve if hurt, to heal once broken. I’ve always believed the heart is very resilient, but just like any other living thing, if it’s wounded, then it needs time to recuperate. This doesn’t give us license to flounder in a victim mindset, but it does allow us to give our heart a break.
And I think this is the best time not to make any important decisions or engage in any impulsive actions. Mabuti pang mag-SL or LOA muna ang puso imbes na isabak ulit sa laban. I learned this the hard way numerous times, and I hope this time, the lesson would stick.
While diving right back into the dating scene or drowning our sorrows in alcohol and negative thoughts might seem therapeutic –and yes, it will work for a while – it’s all temporary. When the rush of a new guy or the buzz of yet another drinking binge wears off, we’re left feeling emptier and sadder than when we started.
The heart is deceitful, as well. We may think we know it and can control it, but we can’t. Only God can. He knows us thoroughly, loved us even while we were still sinners, and can tell each and every desire of our hearts. It’s hard and sometimes, even in my faith in Him, I struggle to come to terms with my limitations. We fall into the trap of going to Him only when all else had failed, but really, we should have come to Him from the start. 
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